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Friday, May 19, 2017

After The Storm...

Do you keep a Journal of Events that happen in YOUR OWN LIFE? I had begun this and found Encouragement in my own storm last night. Its so great looking back and seeing all the things Daddy God has brought us through. We so often forget the past (good things) when all the mind reaches for are the bad memories. Think of all the great problems and storms you came through. Count your blessings bcoz they are greater in number than your bad storms...that pass.

Years ago when I bought my land here, God told me 2 Station Angels on Each Corner of my land. I felt it foolish and embarressing, what would the neighbors think seeing me raising my hands in the air, But I obeyed as His urging was extreme and seemed critical 2 my obedience, God can only give an INSTRUCTION, our part in this Partnership is 2 just obey what Father says 4 He KNOWS what is coming in the future days.

I reluctantly obeyed, wish I could say I jumped 2 do it. I could hear my own voice crack as I quietly spoke the words in the air. God said, This is FOR YOUR SAFETY, SPEAK IT like you mean it ! I raised my hands and I SPOKE into the air, half doubting half believing. And I said, From the FOUR Winds, O God I declare You put an Angel on the North Side, on the South side, O Lord please station one on the East side and please on the West side. Since then, I could tell of ALL the Fires, Tornadoes, High Winds and Hail that have protected me.

I have been amazed, and it has taught me critical lessons. That WHO cares what the neighbors think, Our Home is our life, Then a few years ago, On my walk, I stood outside raised my hands in Faith this time, and SPOKE out loud up to the sky praying for those Angels also 2 ALL my surrounding country Neighbors. Its a good feeling 2 know you can do such a simple Instruction and you are safe when you close your eyes in fear of a bad storm. What affects your neighbors also affect you.
YOU stand in the gap 4 others and remember not 2b ashamed of the Gospel but be the EXAMPLE bcoz other people might need 2 learn also. The last thing I learned last night when I was feeling all ALONE and scared, is that God Himself will put it on people's hearts on who will love you at the time of your own need. Im thankful 2b alive today. God reminds me people love me even if I am alone. Truly He has given us a FAMILY in the Body of Christ who will stand with us loving us, Never take 4 granted those daily 'likes' or notes.

They mean so much, Your WORDS have power, use them kindly and never be afraid 2 love, BE the example you want and need from others. TY 4 listening. To whoever is hurting today, and feels scared or alone. This is 4 you little one. God really does love us more than we will understand. Friends are an extended family, no matter where in the world they are.

Thursday, May 18, 2017

Encouragement 4 MAY

Introduction
========      Hello Spring! And the Newness that affords us a New Beginning again! A Heart full of Hope, New Desires and Dreams. Those New Ideas that we cannot wait 2 put into action or that new Spring Garden full of promise! Praying that this month will be filled with Joy and Happiness in bringing another month full of inspiration and expectation of renewed encouragement. When u feel tired, overdue or delayed, remember that development is not finished it's perfection in what you are about 2 give birth to!
                        God is a GOOD God, always bringing us positive and blessings, 2 ADD 2 our life not 2 take away. He is a GIVER, and loves 2 bless His children!

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01May - Break Through the Wall - When u feel the worst, when failure is breathing down your neck, press into the Word as never b4.  The wall of sickness or financial trouble, of spiritual failure or family problems may be stopping u cold.  But don't Quit!  God will enable u 2 break through that wall and keep right on going.  All u have 2 do is punch one little hole in that wall of problems, dig one tiny hole in it w/your faith and w/the Word of God.  B4 long, the forces of God will come bursting through demolishing every obstacle in their path.

Philippians 4:13 -  I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.

01MAY -  Prepare your heart 4 changes both great and small.  Some things will only enhance your environment cosmetically, while other changes will affect u spiritually in a profound way.  Yet other changes will affect your work or play.  Be flexible and ready 2 embrace all that I have for u, says the Lord.  But, also watch for seductions that would take you out of the flow of My Spirit.  I will lead u in the way of peace.

Isaiah 55:12 - "For u shall go out with joy, and be led out with peace; the mountains and the hills shall break forth into singing b4 u, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands."
02May - Train Your Spirit - Become a spiritual athlete. Spending TIME w/God is 'spirit' practice.  As u do it diligently, your spirit-man will grow stronger and start 2 overcome the habits of the flesh.  Put yourself in training by practicing the things of God.  Build your spirit muscles thru Fellowship w/Him.  If u have trouble getting up in the morning 2 spend time w/God, if u have been giving in 2 your flesh and staying in bed, then u will have 2 start practicing 2 get up.  The more u practice, the easier it will be.  You are a Winner!

Titus 2:12 - ...teaching us that ,denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, ...

03May - Can He Count on You? - God needs u 2b faithful and alert 2 spiritual things today.  Can He count on u 2b faithful?  It's a decision only u can make.  U often praise God 4 HIS faithfulness and that u can count on HIM.  But God needs faithful and wise stewards also. He needs u 2b someone He can trust 2 know His Word and be obedient 2 it.  Commit yourself 2b that wise and faithful servant.  Say in your heart and w/your mouth, "God, u can count on me."

Luke 12:42 -  And the Lord said, "Who then is that faithful and wise steward, whom his master will make ruler over his household, to give them their portion of food in due season?

03MAY - I am unlocking another dimension of spiritual revelation, available to those who seek to know and understand My kingdom.  There will be greater clarity that will bring depth and richness to your walk in the Spirit.  All you have to do is release your desire to know Me more fully and intimately, says the Lord.  Then, come to Me with expectation.

Luke 11:9 - "So I say 2 u, ask, and it will be given 2 u; seek, and u will find; knock, and it will be opened 2 u
04May - No More Surprises  - If u are in the dark      Visit Lori411 Shop
about God's Will 4 u, u don't have 2 stay that way.  He is not in the business of keeping secrets from u.  He wants u 2 know about His plans and provisions 4 your life. The Holy Spirit was given 2 reveal God's secrets 2 u.  Determine today that u are going 2 start receiving revelation from the Spirit.  ASK God 2 reveal 2 u the reality of the Scriptures as u pray in the Spirit.  He will shed His light on them and show u exactly how they apply 2 u.  God wants u 2 know everything that is on His heart today.

I Corinthians 2:10 - But God has revealed them 2 us thru His Spirit.  For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God.

04MAY - Certain aspects of your life are being re-arranged so that u can see more completely My divine influence.  Your environment and circumstances demand all the interest and thought that u are willing 2 give.  But, it is My desire 2 get your attention, 2 draw your attention away from yourself and worldly concerns so that I can manifest and express My Kingdom in tangible ways in, around, and through u, says the Lord.  Yield 2 this work, so that I can establish u in divine order.

Isaiah 48:6 - "You have heard; see all this. And will u not declare it? I have made u hear new things from this time, even hidden things, and u did not know them."

05May - Take Time 2 Listen - As u pray today, set aside your own ideas and start seeking the wisdom of God.  God's wisdom is the key that will unlock every door in your life.  It will turn every failure into success.  Lay out the entire problem b4 the Lord.  Listen 4 the Spirit of God 2 advise u.  Then act on the wisdom God gives u.  Spend some time listening  what God has 2 say about your situation.  It is the only thing that can permanently solve the problem u have been facing.  God has given u a precious gift, so seek His wisdom today.

James 1:5 - If any of u lacks Wisdom, let him ASK of God, who gives 2 all liberally and w/o reproach, and it will be given 2 u.  But ASK in Faith, with no doubting, 4 he who doubts is like a wave of the Sea driven and tossed by the wind.  For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 4 he is a 'double-minded' man, unstable in all his ways.

06May - Put the Word Into Action - If u want your deeds 2b blessed, if u want 2C supernatural results in your life, u will have 2 do more than simply read the Word of God.  You will have 2 put it into action.  Make a quality decision 2 step out in faith on every command u C in the Word.  Keep on reading and studying the Bible and listen 2 teaching tapes.  God 2 church and hear the Word preached or from TV, fill ur soul with His words.  Go one crucial step further by taking the Word u have heard and put it into action!

Matthew 7:24 - "There4 whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him  a wise man who built his house on the rock;...

07May - The Grace of Giving - The next time the offering plate is passed, dont just drop your gift carelessly in the plate as it goes by.  How u give is a matter of deep concern 2 God.  God refused 2 receive Israel's offerings in Malachi bcoz they were bringing Him defective animals.  Do u reverence God at offering time today?  Worship Him w/your money. Be thankful.  Determine 2 obey God.  He will do more than simply receive your offering.  He will open the windows of blessing on u.

2Corinthians 8:7 - But as u abound in everything--in Faith, in Speech, in Knowledge, in all Diligence, and in your Love 4 us--C that u abound in this Grace also.

08May - Keep Quiet -Develop the quiet art of the wise man.  when the Holy Spirit gives u discernment about a situation, don't go spreading it all over town.  If u do, u will come 2 the place where the Lord cannot trust u w/revelation and insight into things and situations.  U can lose your effectiveness as an intercessor if u do not keep the discernment about others between u and God.  When God shows u a problem, in someone's life, a weakness or need, pray 4 that person.  Do not let the devil harm your prayer life and ministry 2 others by not keeping quiet!

Proverbs 29:11 - A fool vents all his feelings (emotions), But a wise person holds them back.

09May - The Father's Heart - How much love do u have 4 sinners?  There is a whole world full of weary people out there who have not yet found the embrace of the Father.  They are more than just 'sinners'--they are our potential brothers/sisters/family.  God wants u 2 have His heart 4 those who are lost.  He wants u 2 have the kind of heart He had 4 u when u were still wandering in sin, when u were still covered w/the grime of sin.  Do not turn ur nose up at the lost ones in need of a loving Father.  Receive His heart today.

Luke 15:20 - "And he arose and came  his father. But when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him.
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10May - Head 4 the Light - IF u need insight on some problem or situation u are facing, pay attention 2 the Word.  Do not focus your attention on the problem.  The Apostle Paul says 2 take heed (or focus your attention) on the written Word of God until the answer 2 that problem dawns on u thru the light of revelation.  Head 4 the Light and the answer u need will dawn on u.  The brightness of the Light will drive out the confusion of the darkness.  God's Word will bring u insight into the situation.  So if u have a problem today, head 4 the Light!

2Peter 1:19 - We also have the prophetic word made more sure, which u do well 2 heed as a Light that shines in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts.

11May - Never Fall - If u want the kind of faith that will keep u on your feet when others are falling around u, u need 2 take some action where the Word is concerned.  Real faith involves action according 2 James 2:20.  Get serious about the Word of God.  Study it.  Go hear it preached.  Confess it. When a time of trouble comes, u will be able 2 stand.  Becoming a diligent workman will cause the devil 2 look at u w/fear and say, "There's one believer who is not playing games anymore!"

2Timothy 2:15 - Be diligent 2 present yourself approved 2 God, a worker who does not need 2b ashamed, rightly dividing the Word of Truth.

12May - River of Revelation -  Be a doer of God's revelations and not a hearer only.  Revelation is most prolific when u are acting on the Word.  James says 2 not only hear God's Word but 2 DO IT!  Open God's Word anew today.  Be expectant that u will receive fresh revelation.  Commit 2 Him 2 follow it up w/actions of obedience.  The things God reveals 2 u are very significant in the spiritual realm.  Your river of revelation will never go dry as u become a doer of His Word [Instructions].

James 1:22 - But be doers of the Word, and not  hearers  only, deceiving yourselves.
13May - Take Your Place - Fellowship w/your Heavenly Father around the Word and discover who u really are today. U will begin 2 know the 'power outflowing from His resurrection."  U will develop Joy.  U will develop Faith.  U will start developing God's own characteristics.  The Bible says 2 'clothe yourself w/the Lord Jesus Christ."  U can freely give what God has freely given 2 u.  Instead of begging 4 a little touch from Jesus, let His very life flow out 2 others.  U will give the devil a real scare as u learn 2 take your place in the Lord!

Note: When we Take, it comes 'down', when Giving, it goes 'UP'. 

Philippians 3:10 - .. that I may know Him and the power of His Resurrection, and the Fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed 2 His Death.

14May - Priorities of Prosperity - Make pleasing God your number one priority.  Set your eyes on Him above all else.  His plan 4 u is 2 have all your needs met according 2 His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.  God is not against u having money.  He is against u  making it your priority and putting your trust in it instead of Him.  God is so generous that He desires u have the best on this earth, just as u desire the best 4 your children.  Get in on that plan by keeping your priorities straight.  Seek HIM first and His righteousness.

Matthew 6:24 - "No one can serve 2 masters, 4 either he will hate the one and love  the other, or else he will be loyal 2 the one and despise the other.  U cannot serve God and money.

15May - Don't Forget the Joy - To walk in Faith and Love are 2 important decisions in your life, but don't 4get the force of Joy!  Joy is an essential part of a life of Victory.  According 2 Nehemiah, Joy is what gives u the strength 2 hold steady when the circumstances get rough.  Joy gives u the ability 2 laugh in the devil's face when he starts trying 2 knock u off your faith.  It gives u a staying power that will make u a winner again and again.  Make it a point 2 rejoice in the Lord always...and there will not be anything the devil can do or say 2 steal your victory from u!

Philippians 4:4 - Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!

16May - Step Out of the Boat - Are u so afraid of making a mistake that u never get around 2 stepping out in faith?  Do u wonder, "Is this faith or is it presumption?  What if I exercise my faith 4 something and later find out I have missed God's will?"  Do not worry.  God can handle any mistake u can make.  If u act on the Word out of sincerity of your heart and if u will steadfastly stay w/the Word, Jesus will never let u down!  Do not let fear keep u from taking that step of faith.  It is better 2 risk presumption than 2 waste your life in the boat of unbelief and doubts.  Step out of that boat/box today!

Matthew 14:28-29 - And Peter answered Him and said, "Lord, if it is U, command me 2 come 2 U on the water."  So He said, "Come."  And when Peter had come down out of the boat, he walked on the water 2 go 2 Jesus.

17May - Walk in the Light U Have - Are there spiritual things u do not yet understand?  Are there great revelations that u have not had?  Remember, it is not those things that are most likely 2 destroy u.  It is the things u 'know' 2 do--but do not--that usually make u fail. God will C 2 it that u walk in Victory if u continue in what u know.  Do not fail 2 walk in the revelation God has already given u.  Be faithful in those things u have already learned.  Keep studying the Word.  Keep learning.  As u walk in the light u have day-by-day, u will come forth Victorious.  God will C 2 that!

2Timothy 3:14 - But as 4 u, continue in the things which u have learned and been assured of, knowing from whom u have learned them,..

18May - He Will Be Listening - Do u sometimes feel u are just limping along in your prayer life praying the same old prayers, half-hoping those prayers are heard and half-suspecting they are not?  Is God listening 2 your prayers?  God has promised 2 listen 2 prayers according 2 His will.  First, roll up your sleeves and dig into the Word.  Pray the Scriptures that apply 2 your personal situationThen let the Holy Spirit help u develop your petition in detail.  Listen while u pray.  God wants 2 reveal His heart 2 u.  Last of all, write your prayers down along w/the impressions and ideas He gives u.  Present your petition.  He is listening!

I John 5:14-15 - "Confidence and Compassion in Prayer - Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if  we ASK ANYTHING according  His Will, He hears us.  And if we KNOW that He hears us, whatever we ask,  we KNOW that we have the Petitions that we have asked of Him.

19May - Don't Waste Time Wondering - Do not waste time wondering if your prayers are in line w/God's will.  Get the Word out and base your prayers on it.  Find out what the will of God is thru the B.I.B.L.E.  God has made some very specific promises in His Word and it is His will 2 fulfill every one of them in your life.  The Bible is the last will and testament of Jesus Christ.  It is a record of your Inheritance.  The Bible says God is the same yesterday, today and 4ever.  He is never going 2 change!  Rest assured u can trust His Word!

Ephesians 5:17 - Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.

20May - Free From the Curse - The 'moment' u made Jesus Christ Lord of your life, u were delivered from the lordship of satan.  U were RE-deemed from the Curse. [RE-deemed means rescued or RE-stored, meaning 'again' or a previous state.] The curse is still all around u, but now u have a choice.  U have authority over it in the Name of Jesus, so u can stand against it.  Jesus has set u Free from the curse!  God sent Jesus  RE-deem u from that curse.  Now u must appropriate what has already been done 4 u.  No longer do u have 2 bow your knee 2 satan or who he tries 2 use against u.  Choose 2b Free from the curse!

Galatians 3:13 - Christ has REdeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse 4 us (4 it is written, "Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree").

21May - Possess Your Promised Land - God has given u a promised land.  As u study the Word of God, u will find an accurate description of the kind of Victory u should be experiencing in Christ--not in the sweet by-and-by, but right here, right now.  U may be experiencing sickness, oppression and fear right now saying, "This does not look much of a promised land 2 me!" That is bcoz u are still letting the devil live there.  Kick him out of your promised land!  God has given u power over him.  He is totally disarmed thru Jesus' Death, Burial and Resurrection.  Do not receive the devil's empty threats.  Start possessing your promised land!

Numbers 33:51-53 - "Speak 2 the children of Israel, and say 2 them: "When u have crossed the Jordan intyo the land of Canaan,  'then u shall drive out all the  inhabitants of the land from b4 u, destroy all their graved stones, destroy all their molded images, and demolish all their high places; 'u shall dispossess the inhabitants of the land and dwell in it, 4 I have given u the land 2 possess..

22May - Silence the Critics - When people start riding u about living the faith life, be like Jesus and just keep on blessing the people.  Keep on praying 4 others. keep on laying hands on the sick.  Keep on doing what God has called u 2 do!  The devil wants u 2 get wrapped up in all the criticism so he can distract u and get your MIND off what u know u are 2 do.  U can silence the critics by not arguing w/them or defending yourself.  Keep quiet and continue the good works God has called u 2 do.  When all their foolish words have faded away, u will still be standing strong.

I Peter 2:15 - For this is the will of God, that by doing good u may put 2 silence the ignorance of foolish men..

23May - The Bridegroom Cometh -   The Spirit of God is delivering a vital, urgent message 2 u today: Get ready 4 Jesus' return!  As a child of the Light, u will not be taken by surprise [bcoz u had "prepared' (like mega cooking in advance)].  U may not know the day or the hour, but u can sense the season of Jesus' return has come. Do not get caught sleeping when Jesus returns.  The Holy Spirit will get u ready as u listen 4 the announcement of His return.  Can u hear it in your spirit?  Can u sense the Lord calling 4 u 2 fellowship w/Him now, 2 walk in the light now?  Obey Him quickly.  Behold, the bridegroom cometh! Do not be caught unaware like the millions will, prepare now 4 it. (The ANT)

Matthew 25:6 - "And at midnight a cry was heard; 'Behold, the bridegroom is coming.; go out 2 meet Him!'

24May - Sure 2 Win In Him - Be prepared the next time satan comes at u w/Doubt, Unbelief and Condemnation.  Be ready (prepared) 2 fight back w/the Scriptures about who u are IN Jesus.  In HIM, u are raised up from your sins.  In HIM, u are made 2 sit in heavenly places.  In HIM, u are made the righteousness of God. Let those truths get down in your spirit man, deep down inside of u.  U will have some powerful ammunition against the attacks of satan.  Once u get the revelation of who u are IN Christ Jesus, your life will be revolutionized!  U will be a Winner!

Ephesians 2:11-13 - Therefore remember that u, once Gentiles in the flesh--who are called UNcircumcision by what is called the Circumcision made in the flesh by hands--that at that time u were w/o Christ, being aliens from the common wealth of Israel and strangers from the covenants of Promise, having no HOPE and w/o God in the world. But now IN Christ Jesus u who once were far off have been made near by the Blood of Christ.

25May - Awaken 2 Righteousness - Today, reawaken yourself 2 the glorious fact that u have been made the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus and given the right standing w/Almighty God. Awaken 2 righteousness!  Satan cannot bring u into bondage again 2 sin in order 2 control your life if u will reawaken yourself every day 2 who u really are in Jesus.  Daily confess anew Jesus is your Lord. Accept His gift of righteousness and all that gift includes.  U can reign in this life as a king in Jesus.  Determine today 2 walk consciously in your right standing w/the Lord.


I Corinthians 15:34 - Awake 2 righteousness, and do not sin; 4 some do not have the Knowledge of God.  I speak this 2 your shame.

26May - Discover What the Name Can Do - Discover what the exalted Name of Jesus can do 4 u today.  It is more than just a word. His Name is a force that can cause every circumstance and every demon standing in your way 2 bow it's knee.  Just the Name alone is effective when spoken by a Word-abiding believer.  Begin 2 speak that Name w/confidence and authority.  When an evil spirit is trying  2 bring sickness, poverty and depression into your household, just point your finger at him and say, "Jesus!"  That is like throwing the whole Word of God in his face at one time.


Philippians 2:9-10 - Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the Name which  is Above every name, that at the name of JESUS every knee should bow, of those in Heaven, and of those on Earth, and of those under the Earth..


27May - God Wants U Well - Thank God 4 your healing--however it comes--and do not  let satan put u under condemnation.  It is God's Will 2 heal u.  It is not contrary 2 the principles of Faith 2 use doctors and medicine when u need healing.  Let peace be your umpire if u are not sure whether your faith is strong enough or whether u need a doctor's help.  If fear rises within u when u think about doing w/o medical help, then go 2 a doctor.  On the other hand, if u have a sure confidence within u that healing is yours strictly by Faith, let faith do its work and receive your healing.  Either way, rejoice!  God is meeting w/u at your level of Faith!


Exodus 15:26 -


28May - Receive the Man of God - Learn 2 receive the minister of God that Jesus  sends 2 u w/the same respect and the same honor that u would give Jesus Himself.  The ministers of the gospel are not your servants, they are God's servants.  Pray 4 your preacher if u think his doctrine is wrong.  Whether they are right or whether they are wrong, love them and respect them, if 4 no other reason than 2 honor the One who sent them.  Refuse 2 let criticism hold back the Anointing of the precious Holy Spirit.  The Anointing of God will be released thru the man of God 2 YOU!


John 13:20 -


29May - Don't Hesitate - Kick the habit of hesitation today. When doubt comes 2 your mind, cast it out quickly.  Hesitation is one of the most hazardous habits u could ever have.  It comes from being Indecisive. (The Phlegmatic type)  When God speaks, don't waste a moment.  Step right out in faith.  Make a solid decision 2 trust in and act on the Word of God.  U cannot make any progress if u are busy going back and forth between faith and fear.  U can always keep the devil a step behind u when u step out in faith quickly!


James 1:6-8 -

30May - Tell The GOOD News - Through the death and resurrection of Jesus, God has cleansed and forgiven and restored 2 Himself every man, woman and child on the face of this earth.  Romans 5:10, "when we were enemies, we were reconciled 2 God by the death of His Son."  Reconciled is past tense.  God has already restored fellowship between Himself and the World.  That is the good news God has given us. That is the Word we need 2 share w/those who are lost.

2 Corinthians 5:19 -


31May -Live in Power - Do u want 2 know how 2 overcome sin in your life today?  U cannot overcome sin by trying 2 stop sinning.  U overcome it by walking after the new life God has put within u.  Sin will separate u from the power of God even though u are born again.  The Resurrection life within u will lay dormant if u walk in sin.  by spending TIME in the Word and in Prayer, u can overcome!  As u do that, God will strengthen u and enable u  put sin under your feet.  Take the initiative 2 subdue those old fleshly habits.  The Resurrection life of God will flow out of u  2 help u when u do!


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Friday, May 12, 2017

Bible Emergency Numbers


                                    Bible Emergency Numbers


- When u are sad, call on                                   John 14
- When u don’t feel loved, call on                     Romans 8:38-39
- When u have sinned, call on                           1 John 1:8-9
- When u are facing danger, call on                  Psalm 91
- When people have failed u, call on                 Psalm 27
- When God feel far from u, call on                   Psalm 139
- When your faith needs encouragement         Hebrews 11
- When u are scared, call on                              Psalm 23
- When u are worried, call on                             Matthew 6:25-34
- When u are hurt, call on                                    Colossians 3:12-17
- When u feel no one is on your side, call on Romans 8:3-39
- When u are seeking rest, call on                     Matthew 11:25-30
- When u are suffering, call on                           Romans 8:18-30
- When u feel you’re failing, call on                   Psalm 121
- When u pray, call on                                          Matthew 6:9-13
- When u need courage, call on                        Joshua 1
- When u pray, call on                                          Matthew 6:9-13
- When u are in need, call on                             Philippians 4:19
- When u are hated bcoz of your faith, call    John 15
- When u are losing hope, call on                    2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
- When u are seeking peace, call on               John 14:27
- When u want to do good works, call on      John 15
- When u want 2 live a happy life, call on      Colossians 3:12-17
- Don’t understand what God is doing          Isaiah 55:8-9

- Do u want 2 get along w others, call on      Romans 12:9-21

Thursday, May 11, 2017

God Helps The Helpless


Psalm 63:7 -  Because You have been my help, therefore in the shadow of Your wings I will rejoice.

I have had people tell me, “Please pray for me. I can’t see a way out of the mess I am in. I know that this whole thing is my fault. Right now, I don’t even know whether God will hear my prayers.”

If u think about it, a whole lot of our troubles are of our own making. But it is when we deserve the punishment and not the blessing that we can receive grace — the undeserved favor and unmerited help of God!

When we stop trying 2b deserving of God’s help, we find God more than willing 2 be our Savior. But when we continue 2 try 2 work things out, we are trying 2b our own saviors. God will say, “Save yourself bcoz I can’t help u when u don’t need My help.”

You might be thinking, “But Pastor Prince, don’t u know, God helps those who help themselves?”

Contrary 2 popular belief, this saying that “God helps those who help themselves” is not in the Bible! God does not help those who help themselves. He helps those who are helpless and dependent on Him. He helps those who look 2 Him as their only source of help for their problem.

If u say, “My problem is that I am weak.” God says, “That is not a problem. I am your strength.” If u say, “Lord, my face is the problem. I am ugly.” God says, “My face will shine on yours. I am your glory.” If u say, “Lord, I am the problem. I am a nobody.” God says, “I will make u a somebody.”

Unfortunately, many of us are still trying 2 help ourselves, thinking that for certain matters, we don’t really need God. But God says, “Without Me, u can do nothing.” (John 15:5) Do we really believe that? Or do we believe that without Him, we can still do some things 2 help ourselves?

Only when we realize that we can do nothing, and are nothing in and of ourselves, can we do all things through Christ who strengthens us! (Philippians 4:13) Then, we will see the undeserved, unmerited help and favor of God deliver us from every evil!

Are U Wearing A MASK

by Florence Littauer - Your Personality Tree
Introduction
=========     When I first started CLASS (Christian Leaders and Speakers Seminars) in the fall of 1980, I intended 2 teach Christian speakers how 2 "Say it w/CLASS," but as I worked closely w/the men and women who attended, I became increasingly aware of their emotional needs. As I began a study of the 4 Personalities on a deeper level than I had ever done b4, I looked beyond the obvious behavior characteristics of each Temperament type and into the Hurts of the Hearts.
     I found Sanguines who depressed, Cholerics who were out of control, Melancholies who had given up on life and Phlegmatics who were overwhelmed by adverse circumstances.  I saw women who were repeating their mother's mistakes and men who refused 2b introspective or enlightened any more than their fathers had been.
     Marriages of Christian leaders were falling apart and no one seemed 2b doing much about it.  Currently, we find that anywhere from 1/3 to 1/2 of those attending CLASS are already divorced.  As I teach about the Personalities, the different desires and underlying emotional needs, lights go on and people begin 2 find themselves and understand why they are in their present dilemma.
     As Lana Bateman came on our CLASS staff, she began on indepth study of what she perceived 2b the  'masks' people wear 2 cover up their Birth Personality.  In both our CLASS counseling and her own Philippian Ministries, Lana took note of the different types of masks, when and why people wore them, and how they could be removed.  Eventually we both started teaching Lana's concept and recording the reactions and results.
     As I  researched the personalities of both my family and Fred's, I saw repeated patterns of behavior and area where some of us had unconsciously stifled our natural traits in the vain effort 2 please a parent or partner.  Some had played a part foreign 2 their own inborn personality and in the process had lost any sense of who they really were and any sight of who they might become.  Some had put on the mask of comedy or tragedy 2 get applause from the crowd and some had changed costumes so many times that they had forgotten their original identity.
     One day I traced our family's personality tree on the board at CLASS and showed how many of us strong Cholerics had put on Phlegmatic masks when repressed by other Cholerics.  Immediately people came up 2 confess that they had been wearing masks and had not realized what they were doing.

Natural Personality Traits
====================     Some people could not "find themselves" bcoz their true God-given nature had been trampled under, had died 4 lack of attention, or had been masked by rejection or guilt.  I began 2 C how childhood abuses of any kind from emotional neglect 2 physical mistreatment could warp a little one's feelings about himself and make him unable as an adult 2 know who in the world he really was.
     Some women I talk w/do not have any grasp of which traits are real and which are learned.  What I am now observing in the above-average men and women we train at CLASS is that a totally subconscious manipulation has changed them from what they were meant 2b 2 the insecure questioning people they are today.  These are adults who have dedicated their lives 2 the Lord and thought they had taken off the old clothes and put on the new.  Somehow new clothes [reborn spiritual personality] have not been enough, but as we help them examine their personalities by looking back 2 what they were meant 2b, the blinders fall away and they begin 2 C w/a new light.
     The Bible tells us that Jesus is the vine and we are the branches, yet some of us are not connected w/what we were originally intended 2b.  Bcoz of adverse circumstances, lack of love, sibling rivalry, or the desire 2 please demanding parents, we unconsciously changed our Birth Personality 2 fit our situation.  Fun-loving children were forced 2 get serious and keep quiet, while Introverts were told 2 put on a happy face 2b popular.  Born leaders were disciplined into an unnatural submission and those who would rather watch were pushed into leadership.
     Some who stayed true 2 their  Birth Personalities through childhood put on accommodating masks after marriage in order 2 please a  mate.  Let's look first at the natural traits of each Temperament and how uncomfortable we feel when we try 2b like someone else.


PERSONALITY [Sanguine]
=====================     When we think of someone who has "personality" we are usually referring 2 a Sanguine even though we may not know the term.  If we enroll in image improvement lessons, we want 2 learn how-2 lose our self-consciousness, be confident b4 groups, be the life-of-the-party, and ingest an instant sense of humor.  There is nothing wrong w/these goals, but we must realize that unless we are a Sanguine 2 start with, these traits may come across as unnatural.  A Melancholy may try 2 repeat a story he heard a Sanguine tell and wonder why no one seems 2 respond.  A Choleric may try 2 make a jest over a person's prat-falls and appear critical.  The Phlegmatic, even w/his natural dry wit, may twist his tongue and easily gecome sarcastic.
      Enjoy the Sanguine personality, but do not be envious, 4 w/their charm comes a lack of discipline and they seldom reach their full potential even after receiving the ribbon "Most Likely 2 Succeed!"
     I once took a charm course from a teacher who was naturally charming.  She sat w/her hands delicately posed and her legs crossed neatly at the ankles.  While this looked fine 4 her, it did not do the same 4 the rest of us. As I glanced around the room it was laughable 2 C all of us sitting in identical positions trying 2b clones of our teacher.  We should look, sit, and walk our best, but it should be "our" best not a replica of someone else.  Just be yourself; 4 a phony personality is never attractive.

POWER [Choleric]
==============     In an age where we are all stimulated 2 become supermen and superwomen, we are often jealous of those who seem 2 have it all together.  Y can't we be in charge?  Y don't we seem 2 have the power of persuasion?
     As a member of the National Speakers Association  I have the opportunity 2 spend time w/some of the top motivational speakers, and I have learned that most seminars are conceived by Cholerics, written by Cholerics, taught by  Cholerics, and only the  Cholerics can catch the vision.  The Cholerics in the audience can relate 2 the speaker, charge forth, follow the grail, and meet the challenge.  The Sanguine girl who attends means well and wants 2 get her act together, but she cannot even lift the syllabus.  If she does not lose it on the way home, she will put it away 2 look at another day when she cannot remember where she had put it, she will take this as a sign from the Lord that she is good enough as she is and does not need the book anyway.  The Melancholy at a seminar comes prepared w/his own notebook, asorted pens and 3x5 cards.  He can follow  the details and sense the direction of the speaker's "7 Steps 2 Success," but he becomes overwhelmed w/the vitality of the visionary waving his arms wildly as he yells "terrific" and "tremendous."  No one is really that terrific or tremendous, he muses.  Once the Melancholy senses the speaker is insincere and shallow, he loses interest in the program.
     The Phlegmatic did not want 2 go 2 the seminar in the first place [lol], and he has no intention of changing his way of life. He measures all activity by how much energy it will take 2 succeed, and this all looks too much like work.  People who are flambouyant and frequently about 'fabulous' strikefear in the heart of the Phlegmatic.  He cannot believe they are 4 real and he plans 2 leave at the next coffee break.
     Enjoy the dynamic delivery and powerful confidence that is natural in the Choleric and learn what u can from his presentation, but do not get depressed if u do not desire 2 go out jogging at 5:30 each morning or meet Zig Ziglar at the top.  Cholerics are sensational at seminars, but they are not always a big hit at Home.
     While speaking 2 a group of motivational speakers I inserted a line that I had no intention of saying. "U may be terrific and tremendous and fabulous and fantastic on stage, but u may have a sad wife at Home who, if she hears one of those words again, is going 2 throw up."
     I bit my tongue as I heard those words slip out, but when I finished, a nationally known motivator came up w/an uncharacteristically humble expression. "Just this week my wife said, "U may be a hot shot on the stage but u are a Zero at Home, and if u say "fantastic" one more time, I'm going 2 throw up.' "
     The Choleric has power in his presentation but he needs 2 get off his pedestal and look into the hearts of the people.  Be yourself; and do not envy those leaders who seem 2 have it all together.


PERFECTION [Melancholy]

======================     "Can't u ever do anything right?"  How many of us heard that as we were growing up?  For the Melancholy there is no other way.  As a man said 2 me, "Why would anyone want 2 do less than his best?"  And he is right.  Certainly we would not aim 2 fail or want 2 do a shoddy job, but only the Melancholy has the innate drive 4 perfection.  The Melancholy male must have his shoes polished, his mirror spotless, and his toothpaste tube w/o wrinkle.  He cannot possibly understand how his Sanguine wife could lose her shoes, keep open jars of make-up all over the counter and twist the tacky toothpaste tube beyond recognition. [lol]  He is constantly picking up behind her, shutting doors she has left open and putting the cap on the catsup.
     Fred, my husband, is so neat that he has been known 2 fold up his clothes b4 putting them in the hamper.  One day I took his pile of laundry 2 the foyer and placed it on the table while I went into the kitchen 2 collect the dish towels.  Within a minute I came out and the laundry was gone.  I assumed he had taken it 2 the washer, but there was no pile there.  When I found him and asked what he had done w/the laundry, he replied, "I thought it was clean and I have put it away." lollllllll
     The Melancholy mind is constantly tying up the loose ends of life and they wonder, since they are right, Y the rest of us do not C it their way.  The Choleric is more interested in getting things DONE quickly than perfectly.  The Sanguine does not realize they have not done it right and the Phlegmatic just do not care that much.  The world needs the Melancholy 2 keep the rest of us on track, but sometimes the standards are set so high that no one can achieve tham and then we all get depressed.  Be yourself; life is never going 2b perfect.


PEACE [Phlegmatic]
================     While the Sanguine is running around spreading Joy unto the maximum, and the Choleric is trying 2 get things under control, and the Melancholy is dusting off the details, the Phlegmatic is trying 2 keep peace among us all.  Lana says her husband calls her a natural tranquilizer.  When his Choleric energy bursts in the door at night, he takes one look at her calm, cool, and collected expression and begins 2 come down 2 earth.  The heart of the Phlegmatic is peaceful and he will do anything, including compromising his principles, if he can avoid a potential problem.
     From the time the Phlegmatics were children, they had a calming influence on others, and while they may enjoy some sports, especially those on TV, they do not have the competitive spirit of the Choleric.
     Other temperaments admire the Phlegmatics ability 2 keep their heads when all around are losing theirs.
     Be yourself; and do not obliterate your personality 2 keep peace.
     As u begin 2 understand the truth of your personality, the Lord will show u who u were born 2b and remove any mask u might be wearing.  He wants u 2b yourself 4 He has created u 4 such a time as this.


CLUES 2 MASKING
================     One of the first 'clues' that u might not be functioning in total honesty w/what u were born 2b is when your personality Profile comes out w/relatively even splits between Sanguine [outgoing optimistic] and Melancholy [Introvered-pessimistic] or when u are half Choleric {aggressive-active} w/1/2 Phlegmatic {passive-peaceful}. Since these are diametrically opposed sets of traits, these combinations indicate there may be a Masking. God did not create us w/antagonistic personalties in one body.  "A Double-minded man is unstable in all his ways" [James 1:8 KJV].
     As Lana began a study of all those she counseled who had these splits, she found that the individuals w/opposite scores were somehow masking their true identity. They were not phonies in that they had determined 2b something artificial, but they had unconsciously adjusted 2 some set of circumstances where a change was necessary 4 acceptance or survival.  Based on Lana's discovery, our staff began 2 counsel w/a new set of 'tools' and we immediately saw results.  Take, 4 example, the following letter rec'd from a woman who spent a day in counseling and prayer w/our Principal.

     So much has happened 2 me since I last saw u.  I kept my appointment, that was 7 weeks ago, and I think I have started another life at a different level.  I talked fast enough in those 8 hours to find 41 areas 2 pray about.  I finally found out I am a Sanguine/Choleric.  What a shock 2 me as I had always seemed 2b so Melancholy. Principal laughed when I asked her what she saw.  It seems my whole foundation is Choleric.  God has been showing me glimpses of my childhood as this Choleric kid, I never knew I was.  I'm so excited, I'm having FUN getting 2 know the real me.  She said I never really had a childhood and I was dealt double whammies ever since I was born.  Now Jesus is between me and all those negative memories.  Praise God!  I'm not out looking 4 someone 2 like me like the lost little child I was b4, as I know I'm loved!
      
     Bcoz of the difficult and repressive circumstances of this woman's childhood, she had grown up thinking she was Melancholy and yet not comfortable about it.  When she saw herself as she was meant 2b, a Sanguine/Choleric, she was free 2b herself and get out from under the pressure of the past.
     The person who functions as a Sanguine/Melancholy split has happy highs alternating w/deep periods of depression.  The Choleric/Phlegmatic, on the other hand, swings in and out of controlling and submissive responses.  Although many stdies of the 3 Basic Temperaments, no matter what labels are used, show the Sanguine/Melancholy and Choleric/Phlegmatic combinations 2b normal blends of people who have fluctuating extremes in their natures, we have found these conflicting traits 2 represent an adaptation 2 adverse circumstances of the past.
     We feel that a God who created man 2 live in peace of mind would not have built opposite traits into one person causing him lifelong inner turmoil.  As we sought answers 2 this apparent contradiction, we asked individuals w/conflicting traits 2 review their childhood and their parents' personalities.   And we soon found that one of the opposite Temperaments is a MASK, an unnatural veiling of the original personality.
     A Greek  sage once said, "I take the world 2b but as a stage whence net-masked men do play their personage."
    I have found that many honest Christian people are playing roles they never auditioned 4, on stagees they did not design, while glued 2 MASKS they did not know  how-2 remove.
     How many bewildered individuals we C who say, "I just do not know who I am."  We are never truly content when our inner feelings and our outer personality do not match up.
     When do these MASKS first appear? Usually we find that a child who lives in a stressful environment where his natural personality is not acceptable 4 one of many reasons will try 2 adapt 2 what is 'expected of him. He may have pain he cannot 'express', trauma that shocks him out of his true nature, molestation that floods him w/guilt, an oppressive parent that grinds down his personality, a well-meaning but dictatorial parent who plans out his life, a favored sibling he is encouraged 2 emulate, unrealistic goals not suited 2 his abilities, or crisis situations where he has 2 adapt 2 survive.
     At the time he is faced w/odds he cannot hope 2 beat, he may put on an appropriate MASK and play a role 4 which God was not the casting director.
     Nathaniel Hawthorne said in The Scarlet Letter, "No man, 4 any considerable period can wear one face 2 himself and another 2 the multitude w/o finally getting bewildered as 2 which may be the true."
     Maxine Bynum grew up wearing a MASK of Phlegmatic submission and wondered Y she never felt right about herself.  After coming 2 both Personality Plus and Lives on the Mend conferences and spending some counseling wrote:
    
      I was very interested in your "family tree" concept w/the temperaments. I have been looking back and thinking about how my grand-mother influences my temperament and actions as I was growing up, and even after my marriage when I was 19.  My mother died 3 days after I was born and my father could not deal w/her death or w/me, so he gave me 2 my mother's mother when I was 3 weeks old, rejecting me, and was never a part of my life when I was growing up.
     My grandmother was a strong Choleric and I became Phlegmatic 2 make sure I did just what she wanted, so as 2 win her approval and love.  I could not stand another rejection.  My grandfather died when I was 6 years old, so I really do not remember much about him, but he was probably Phlegmatic.  The only time I could really be in control were the 2 summers while a college student at S.M.U., when I was a camp counselor and away from home for 3 months each summer.  It was then that the Choleric part of my temperament surfaced and I could be in charge of a girls' cabin and tell them what 2 do.  And I did!  Except 4 these 2 summers, I have worn a Phlegmatic MASK.


     I'm so grateful that God has used me 2 help Maxine remove a Phlegmatic MASK that was hiding a repressed Choleric nature. Now she is free 2b herself w/o feeling she must apologize 4 her actions. 
     Another lady who has been wearing the Phlegmatic MASK of peace, wrote, "I feel like a chameleon, taking on the color of each situation, trying 2b all things 2 all people, never saying how I really feel about anything.  Now I am so mixed up I have no idea who I really am."
     A man stated, "I had 2 play one part 2 please my mother and a different one 2 humor my father.  I do not know which one--if either--is the real me."


     Words cannot properly express the Peace that comes from discovering one's true identity.



The Sanguine / Melancholy SPLIT
==========================     So many of us don a false front when we meet up w/circumstances we cannot control or relationships we cannot handle.  We wear MASKS that so gradually become a part of us that we  no longer know where the MASK ends and we begin.  If your Personality Profile shows an unusual split, if u feel uncomfortable about your identity or if u sense your offspring are confused, begin  question these conflicting patterns.
     "Y is my teen-age son Melancholy at Home and a Sanguine outside?" a mother asked. "His friends say he is the llife-of-the-party, but he has nothing very bright 2 say 2 me."  As we spoke I learned that the father was Melancholy/Choleric and the mother Melancholy/Phlegmatic.  Neither one put much value on humor and w/o realizing what they were doing, they had let the boy know his light-hearted Sanguine nature was trivial and w/o any serious purpose.
     When we review the Sanguine desire 2 have FUN w/his underlying 'NEED' 2 feel approval and 'WANT' attention, we can C that this boy received neither.  Brought up in a wealthy Home w/achieving parents and goal-oriented siblings, he just did not fit the mold.  When he found his funny stories received no applause at Home, he gave up trying.  Y not save your good lines 4 those who are appreciative of wit?  Do not waste your best stuff on an empty house.
     This boy is not a Melancholy/Sanguine split but a Sanguine who feels depressed at Home.  He wears a Melancholy mask caused by parents who did not accept him as he was.  He becomes his true self when in the presence of his friends who find him funny.
      To remedy this situation both the mother and the father would have 2 understand what they had done 2 show this boy he was not acceptable and begin a conscious course of affirmation and approval.



The Choleric / Phlegmatic Split
=======================     A pastor's wife told me of her daughter-in-law who seemed 2b a Choleric/Phlegmatic split.  B4 marriage she had seemed good-natured and willing 2 go along w/any family plans.  After marriage she took over strongly and now does not want her in-laws 2 even visit or C their grandson.  In tracing the girl's family background, we found a Choleric mother w/a Phlegmatic father. The mother had disliked her in-laws and wouldn't allow them 2b part of the family.  The daughter had played Phlegmatic at home, but upon marriage she took over her Phlegmatic husband and reenacted her mother's domineering personality.  She was subconsciously perpetuating her mother's sin and was excluding her in-laws w/o a valid reason.
     Since it was the outcast mother-in-law who came 2 me, a solution was not easy.  She had already sat down w/her daughter-in-law and asked if she had in any way offended her.  The answer had been, "No, but this is just the way it's going 2b."  The daughter-in-law herself did not even understand Y she was laying down these rules or C that she was patterning her marriage after the poor one her mother had produced.
     Her Phlegmatic husband doesn't dare 2 cross her, and so he secretly brings the little boy 2 visit his mother while lying 2 his wife about the trip.
    Here is a repressed Choleric who wore a Phlegmatic MASK at home 2 keep peace w/her mother, married a Phlegmatic, took over w/a vengeance and is now taking out her hostilities on her in-laws.  This girl has 2b unhappy and confused, but she does not C what she is doing and is not looking 4 any answers.
     She is not only destroying the in-law relationship which she does not seem 2 care about, but she is emotionally destroying her husband and turning him into an unwilling liar.  Ultimately, her child will suffer as the lives under the overbearing dominance of his mother and the frightened submission of his father.

The Sanguine MASK
================     This fellow's wise enough 2 play the fool, And 2 do that well craves a kind of wit.


     The person who puts on the Sanguine MASK of Personality is usually one who learned early in life that his parents valued a happy face beyond any other attribute and that being "on stage" brought approval and applause.  A child does not need 2 know his own name b4 he can sense what brings affirmation from his parents.   When parents, one or both, need an adorable child 2 bolster their own self-worth, they communicate this 2 the little one.  I often C Sanguine MASKS worn by Melancholy musicians who are part of a performing family of gospel singers.  Usually one of the parents is Sanguine [Jun] and is the crowd pleaser while the other Melancholy  [May] partner arranges the music and is the pianist.  As the children come along they must all duplicate the Osmonds and sparkle out the front.  The Sanguine fall into this easily and are the favorites of the "stage-mother," but the others have 2 put on Sanguine MASKS or be considered rebels or at least poor sports.  I counseled one Choleric girl who had refused 2 sing along and had been left home w/grandparents.  By refusing 2 wear the Sanguine happy face and bang a tambourine, she had been, in effect, dismissed from the troupe who went bubbling on w/o her.  By the time I talked w/her she was so angry at what she perceived as rejection that she had developed stomach ulcers in her teens.  One of the Melancholy sisters who had been forced Sanguine 4 years had gone on drugs, but the parents refused 2 C her problem and kept marching onward.
     What a shame it is 2 C Christian entertainers who are more interested in what's up front than what's inside.
     Not all Sanguine MASKS are on performers.  Many are put on unconsciously 2 keep someone happy.  One girl w/a many-times married mother told me that she learned 2b cut 2 keep her mother's varied spouses from "getting mad" at her.  She was Choleric underneath but learned how 2b coy and adorable.  By the time she was a teen, this appeal she had developed led her into being molested by one of the 'fathers' and telling me, "I'll never be charming again.  Who needs it?"
      The difference between a BORN Sanguine and one masquerading is how natural personality is.  Anyone can learn 2 say cute lines and memorize jokes, but any astute person can tell when it's strained.  The REAL Sanguine has a sense of humor that bubbles out easily, and he can take any ordinary event of life and turn it into a hilarious story.  The one wearing a Sanguine MASK, on the other hand, does not have the innate sense of timing and can fail 2b funny when repeating a story exactly as he heard it.
     When Fred first came 2 visit me in our store, he saw what a  comedy routine my brothers and I kept alive and tried 2 fit in and be like us.  I will never 4get that long joke he told that seemed 2 go on 4ever.  As my brothers were looking at me sideways, Fred stopped and said, "I have 4gotten the punch line."  And indeed he had if there had ever been one. Now as we have learned 2 accept each other as we are, he is happy 4 me 2b funny and 4 him 2 provide the depth and stability so natural 4 the Melancholy.
     In taking the Personality Profile, the person w/the Sanguine MASK checks off the 'strengths' that he has worked so hard 2 possess, not realizing they are acquired.  If u suspect u have been forcing your FUN, ask yourself how u really feel about these traits versus how u think u ought 2 feel.  Many a MASK has been thrown away by mere asking of this question.


Lana Bateman puts it like this:

     The Sanguine MASK is a 'clown's mask demanding that its possessor be cute, funny, and constantly striving 4 center stage.  It does not matter that he may not be innately humorous or sociable.  This MASK may take a normally quiet, sensitive person and thrust him into a very uncomfortable role of constant chatter and force him 2 try 2 become the life-of-the-party when in truth, he may have been terrified 2 even appear at the door.
     I first saw the Sanguine MASK in a young woman who was 32 years old.  Leann had grown up in a home w/a sister who was almost entirely Sanguine.  It was obvious that Leann's older sister Suzanne was her father's delight.  Leann, however, was a more sensitive and quiet child.  She felt deeply and there4 seemed 2 have more struggles as a little girl.  Every time Leann had a problem or hurt, she would run 2 her dad, as most girls long 2 do.  Her father would listen 2 her and answer, "Oh, Leann, Y can't u be like your sister?  Y do u let things bother u?  Just watch Suzanne. She knows how 2 handle these situations.  U need 2 learn 2 laugh and be4 FUN like her.  That will take care of all of these problems, and u will find u have more friends than u know what 2 do with!
     Leann lived on a steady diet of this response from her well-meaning father.  This little one was soon engulfed by a Sanguine MASK.  She tried 2b cute and funny.  She memorized things her sister said,  jokes she heard and any attention-getters she noticed.  In spite of the fact that she tried as hard as she could 2b another Suzanne 4 her father, she never found his words 2b true.  The friends he had promised never came and while she was laughing and joking on the outside, she never stopped crying on the inside.  As a Melancholy child she was never  encoraged toward the strong points of her TRUE Temperament.  She was covered by her Sanguine MASK and by her late 20's she began 2 cry out, "Who am I?"
     After she was lead through some emotional healing, she found out who the real Leann was.  It was not until then that she could accept herself and begin 2 function as the person God made her 2b.

     The Sanguine MASK is indeed a tragedy 4 it produces not Joy and Laughter but Pretense and Loneliness.  The people responding 2 such a mask are repelled.  They hear the funny clever words, but somehow sense the inconsistency between what is said and the person saying it.  It is not surprising that the wearer of this mask experiences a great deal of rejection.  Perhaps we need 2 look a little more closely at our Sanguine friends 4 some are not truly Sanguines at all.  Not all talkers are Sanguine; some are masquerading under torrent of nervous chatter.  Understanding this MASK will better equip us 2 minister 2 that hurting heart and will keep us from pulling away when our friend genuinely needs love and wise counsel.


     The MASK of the clown never quite seems true even though a casual observer will not understand Y he senses this person 2b phony.  It takes an effort 2 play a role God never intended us 2 fill.
     Jane came 2 CLASS elegantly dressed and meticulously groomed.  When any funny line was given she would respond loudly and clap her hands.  As I observed her I sensed her enthusiasm was 'forced' and there was probably some masking of her real personality.  During a break time I asked 2 C her Personality Profile which was scored 1/2 Melancholy and 1/2 Sanguine.  I said nothing about the totals but asked her about her childhood relationships.  She explained that her mother was Melancholy and frequently depressed.  The continual gloom weighed heavily upon Jane and when her mother might get upset again that she made a pledge, "I will never do anything that will make my mother cry."
     Her Sanguine father would often send her 2 her mother's room 2 'cheer' her up. "See if u can say anything that will make your mother smile.  If u succeed, I will give u a dollar."  Jane, in trying 2 please her father and cheer up her mother, developed funny things 2 do and say.  She tried 2 do only what would make her mother happy, and she never dared express how she really felt.
     As Jane told this story, I could C that she was innately Melancholy like her mother and felt deeply 4 her mother's moods even though as a child she was frightened by the crying.  Bcoz  of her circumstances, Jane put on a Sanguine MASK and tried her best 2 make her mother smile, encouraged  by dollar bills from her father.
     As an adult her personality shifted in different situations.  She was ill at ease w/people and frequently depressed when alone.  Whenever anyone was sick or discouraged she would don the MASK of the Clown and endeavor 2 cheer them up.  She was married 2 a Sanguine like her father who fled when she was depressed and told her 'cut it out" when she tried 2b funny and failed.   Her daughter was the one bright light of her erratic life, and she suddenly saw she was producing a confused replica of herself in her child, calling her in when she needed a lift out of her own depression as her mother had done 2 her.
     Bcoz Jane was intelligent and wanted God's Will 4 her life, she was able 2 work on her personality w/o further counsel.  She began 2 emphasize her Melancholy strengths and stopped her unnatural bursts of phony entertainment.  Even more important was the freedom she gave her daughter 2b herself and stop having 2b her mother's dose of "happiness pills" as she had been 4 her mother.
     What a blessing it is when we are able 2 C ourselves as we were meant 2b and are willing 2 break the cycle of artificial habits.  As w/any problem in life, we have 2 C what we are doing that is unnatural b4 we can make constructive changes.
     William Thackeray tells of the depressed patient whose theatrical profession made him wear  the MASK -of-the-clown covering his true feelings.

     Harlequin w/o his mask is known 2 present a very sober countenance, and was himself, the story goes, the Melancholy patient whom the doctor advised 2 go and C Harlequin.


The Melancholy MASK
==================     The world's a stage, where every man must play a part; and mine a sad one."

The Melancholy MASK is one of 'attempted perfection and frequent pain'.  When I was first married and Fred announced he was going 2 put me on a training program, I was stunned.  The Sanguine part of me saw this would be no FUN and the Choleric part did not want 2b made over; however, 4 self-preservation I put on a Melancholy MASK of attempted perfection and tried 2 act out the role Fred wanted me 2 pursue.  I played a part and it was a sad one.
     I knew nothing of the 4 Temperaments in those days, and I accepted this unnatural role as the price of being a wife, part of growing up.  What a relief it was when I found my 1st description of a Sanguine and realized my Basic Personality was acceptable.  I did not have 2b serious and sober 2b an adult.
     Now as I look back on it, I functioned 4 those 1st 15 years of marriage as a split personality.  At Home I alternated the Melancholy MASK w/the Phlegmatic pseudosubmisssion of "Yes, Fred dear," while in public I was myself: directing plays, teaching speech, and being president of women's groups.  As soon as I would walk in the door, the MASK would go back on and I would hide my frivolity until I ventured out again.  I was afraid if I looked 2 happy, Fred might think I was 'up 2 something."  I love this little verse that sums me up in my early years of marriage.

... I will make my Joy a secret thing,
My face shall wear a mask of care;
And those who hurt a joy 2 death,
Shall never know what sport is there!

     Those who put the Melancholy MASK on as children were often ones w/parents who demanded 'perfection' either bcoz they were Melancholy and knew no other way or bcoz their status could not accommodate a frisky child.  I find this latter masking frequently among pastor's children whose fathers feel their whole ministry depends upon the proper behavior of their children.
     One Choleric man told me how his pastor father had insisted he be a model child, but set the Choleric mother on the task of enforcing the rules.  He said, "I always felt like a whipped dog w/my tail between my legs.  My spirit was broken early, but my repressed anger was boiling beneath  the surface.  I played  the 'perfect' role, and my mother praised me in public but disciplined me harshly at Home.  I grew up feeling I had no personality, but now I C it was bcoz I was playing a role foreign 2 my nature.  I did things 2 scuttle my mother's plans, and as an adult, I would have 2 work at even liking her.  When she died suddenly, I was left w/a terrible guilt bcoz I never made peace w/her."
     This dear man is now in therapy trying 2 resolve the pains of his past and the guilt of his present, neither of which was necessary had his parents had any realization of what changing his nature was going 2 do 2 his life.
     The Personality Profile of one pastor who came turned out Melancholy/Phlegmatic.  But the twinkle in his eye and the bounce in his step told me he was a Sanguine.  As I sat down  2 talk w/him, he asked me about his score and I began 2 question his childhood behavior.  His father was the pastor and his mother the organist.  They made him sit in the front row and not wiggle and they both kept a watchful eye during what he remembers as endless church services.  The one statement he heard over and over again was, "Don't u dare cause any trouble."  Once his father had pinned him up against a flimsy wall in the church men's room and said, "Here is what I will do 2 u if u ever cause any trouble."  He then smashed his fist inot the wall going right through 2 the ladies' room.  "I knew right then I had better not cause trouble."
     As he told me this story his eyes got big, his voice gained volume, and he literally bounced up and down in the church pew where we were sitting.  Here was a Sanguine man who had been scared out of his wits as a child by a Choleric father who had 2 appear in perfect control 2 his parishioners.  He had played Melancholy, tried 2b perfect, and wondered why he had never felt comfortable w/himself.  When I asked him 2 think of Sanguine-type actions of his childhood, he answered, "I used 2 go out in the fields and preach 2 the trees.  Would that be Sanguine?"
     As we reviewed his life together and saw repeated Sanguine incidents, he began 2 cry, "Why did it take me this long 2 find out who I really am?"  B4 he left CLASS 2 days later he thanked me and said, "This freedom I feel is worth a 1000 dollars."  Later he said how his sermons had changed since he found out it was "ok 2b funny" and how his people had noticed a big improvement in his preaching.
     We will never reach the potential that is within us until we pull off the MASK and become the real person God intended us 2b.
     A Sanguine tour guide from England told me a familiar story.  She had married a Melancholy professor who had made her over until she was wearing a Melancholy MASK every minute that she was not describing the architecture of St Paul's Cathedral  2 an appreciative audience.  One day he came Home and out of the blue stated that she was not the FUN she used 2b.  Ultimately he divorced her and even had the nerve 2 tell her that the new woman had a great sense of humor "like u used 2 have when I married u."
     How often I have heard the pitiful story of a person who puts on an obliging MASK 4 his or her mate only 2b cast aside 4 a 'copy' of the original model.
     Divorce frequently changes a person's apparent temperament.  If a woman has been held under in marriage, having 2 wear a false front 4 survival, divorce often frees her 2 become herself.  If she has been her normal self in marriage and has been cast aside 4 another woman, she often puts on a Sanguine MASK 2 hide the pain and tries 2 become a new person who hopefully will be more successful than the last one.
     Besides the Melancholy MASK OF PERFECTION, there is the very common Melancholy MASK of pain. When the Personality Profile comes out w/Sanguine strengths and Melancholy weaknesses this is a clue that the person is either a Melancholy wearing a Sanguine MASK or a Sanguine that has somewhere along the line put on a mask of pain and become depressed.  Phlegmatics and Cholerics may also wear this Mask of pain if they have met w/severely traumatic situations or have lived in homes where very little love was ever expressed.  When a child does not experience love by being held or touched during the formative years of Birth - 8, there can be an inner unexplained feeling of rejection even though both parents may be in the Home, and this can damage the natural personality 4 life.
     When a child is abused or molested, the victim usually puts on the mask of pain unless he is Choleric enough 2 push away the pain, deny reality, and forge ahead 2 become an achiever.  The victim usually loses his own feelings and drowns in depression and guilt.  As adults, victims assume they have put these problems behind them and cannot understand Y the black cloud is always w/them.
     They are often negative, resentful, and complaining.  No matter what people do 4 them, it is somehow not enough.  They frequently have unexplainable physical symptoms such as Headaches, Body pain, Asthma, and Allergies. Sometimes in extreme sexual abuse cases they have blocked out the original attack  and cannot understand Y they always feel guilty 4 something.
     Whether the cause was trauma or lack of love, the person wearing the MASK of Pain needs help in releasing these past problems.  For some, sitting down w/a patient and compassionate friend who will listen may be enough 2 peel away the MASK.  Some may need a pastor or counselor who will work w/them over many months.  We have seen miraculous results when Lana, or any of her Philippian Ministries counselors, spends a day in searching the memories, praying intensively over the past pains, and healing the hurts through God's almighty power.  Lana tells her own story:

     My life is an excellent example of the Melancholy MASK.  I grew up in a Home where well-meaning parents did not know how 2 express physical affection and were not able 2 effectively communicate w/children.  While there was no abuse of any kind, I was left w/a deep longing 4 love, and that need, eventually distorted, drove me 2 emotional bankruptcy.  It turned me into a totally negative child and adult.  Those who knew me would have declared me 100 percent Melancholy, at least where all of the weaknesses were concerned.  That is a key 4 discerning the Melancholy MASK which expresses itself thru the Melancholy weaknesses rather than strengths.
     The longing 4 love which produces the Melancholy facade cannot be overstated 4 it crushes many of our children and leaves them "licking their wounds" rather than leading productive lives.  One who unknowingly wears the Melancholy MASK will often show an expression of deep pain, hurt, or deadness in the eyes.
     When I was speaking in California, I met a young man who responded 2 my description of a Melancholy MASK.  He came 2 me after I had spoken that evening and described the feeling he had experienced while I was speaking.  He said, "I have had everything a man could ever want in life.  I graduated from a large University as an All-American football player.  I was the athlete of the decade in that University.  I married a Miss Universe.  I own my own bank and trust company and am a prosperous man, but I have never been happy."
     "When u were sharing your childhood and the Melancholy Mask u wore, I found myself  5 years old again.  My dad had lost his temper w/me and told me 2 go out into the woods.  He said, "Don't u ever come back!"  "I was terrified out there alone.   I cried and cried.  The sun went down and it got very dark, ans till no one came.  I cannot tell u the terror I felt as such a little boy.  I knew I would never see Home again.  "At last, late into the night, someone came 2 rescue me.  I guess I will never forget that night.  when u started talking about your childhood, I found myself wandering in those woods again, lost and afraid.  I think I have been there all of my life and I wonder if I will ever come out."
     This was a gentleman who wore the Melancholy MASK.  His life was permeated by the pain of his childhood and the pain was produced by far more than one frightening incident in the woods.  Until this man could work thru that deep hurt and fear, releasing the accompanying emotion--the world would see him as a Melancholy rather than the Choleric/Sanguine he truly was.  And not until then would he be able 2 leave the prison of his mind and rest in the productive and humorous person God created him 2b.  What a glorious transformation comes when one can cease striving and find freedom in God's original design 4 Life.

The Choleric MASK
===============     "Boldness is a mask 4 fear however great."


     In our modern American society power denotes success.  We C magazine articles giving us the secrets 2 happiness and health, prosperity and wealth.  Everybody want 2b somebody and the somebodies all seem 2b Choleric.  These powerful people are earning their livings by showing people w/no power how 2 get it.  The diploma from success courses could well be a Choleric Mask of power. Unfortunately 4 many who get caught up in the "Ten easy Steps from Wimp 2 Wonderful,"  a MASK is all they have.  They do not suddenly acquire a longing 4 the 18-hour work day, and the simple stairway 2 the stars seems 2 have no end.
    I often talk 2 Phlegmatic men who have had Choleric masks of power put on them by eager mothers or aggressive wives whose own self-worth will rise proportionately w/their husband's income.  The man feels he is on a treadmill 2 nowhere and when he adds up the Personality Profile he is 1/2 Choleric and 1/2 Phlegmatic and frequently depressed.  A Phlegmatic w/a Choleric MASK and a lack of understanding of the temperaments is a very discouraged person.